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Just Turn Right

March 17, 2014

Right-Turn-Only-Traffic-Sign-K-1829I don’t normally publicize my own wrong-doings and misdeeds. What’s the point? I need to do it this time. This may seem trivial to some and possibly unnecessary to most. To me, this is important.

Friday I went to a church activity (I’m one of the leaders of the church I attend). During a break my wife and I were talking to a mother and her daughter in our congregation. You see, the daughter, “M,” and my daughter, Hannah, go to the same elementary school and we are quite close with her family. Each morning before work, I drop Hannah off at school. Last week “M” was volunteering as a student crossing guard. You know, the ones with the bright “STOP” signs on the wooden pole that walk out when students are crossing the street. During the conversation, I mentioned to “M” that I saw her but commented that she didn’t see me. Exasperated, she exclaimed that she did see me. She added that as I turned left out of the school parking lot, the adult crossing guard was “maaaaaad at me.”  I asked why, and she explained that the crossing guard was upset that I didn’t obey the “Right Turn Only” sign that was clearly posted. Confused and somewhat taken aback, I countered (I’m now arguing with an 11-year-old) “but tons of people turn left there, not just me….What did I do that was so much worse than what everybody else did?”  Her reply, was simple and piercing. “Nothing, she gets mad at everybody that turns left there.”  We bantered back and forth as I tried to explain and justify my defiance. My wife added there was even a recent plea in the school newsletter. In the end, I’m not sure how the conversation ended, but ever since it did, I have been unable to shake the guilt and remorse I feel.

First, I’ve been a poor example. I realized the poor example I was setting for “M” and all the other children when I  obey some laws and choose to break others. I magnified my poor example by my attempts to explain away my disobedience. That was not fair to her, and for that I apologize. Obedience to the law is mandatory, and nobody—especially me—is above that requirement. She was the example to me when I should have been to her. I’m sorry “M.”

If not for ourselves, we owe obedience to the driving laws (and other safety rules) to our children. I still remember the time my mom got a speeding ticket. Even though my mom was generally a good driver, this single experience justified my teenage choices to blatantly disobey speeding laws. “If mom can do it, why can’t I?” With every rule we parents choose to break, we justify our children’s future disobedience. We must demand obedience from ourselves today if we ever expect obedience from our children tomorrow.

Second, I’ve been a hypocrite. As a personal injury attorney, a safety advocate, and a community blogger, I preach adherence to safety rules, all of them. Whether related to speed, direction, following distance, impairment or distractions these rules are necessary to keep us safe and to protect us from harm. Me must follow them–there is no option or justification for disobedience. This applies even to the rules that “everybody breaks” or the laws that seem, to us, unimportant.

I shudder to imagine the potential consequences of my choices. Fortunately, the only effect was an embarrassing realization that I was a poor example to someone who looked up to me and a poor example to the adult who knew I should have acted more responsibly. Thankfully I can apologize to them and make more responsible driving choices in the future. Luckily my choice to disobey the law did not cause greater harm or injury to one of my daughter’s classmates. I couldn’t fix that result.

I’m happy to say that I turned right this morning. Thanks “M.”

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“Make Safe” Enters the World of the Blog

April 27, 2013

Something you should know.  I’m a personal injury attorney practicing in Vancouver, Washington.  If you were not completely put off by this, you should know that I’m also a husband to my amazing wife, Melissa, and a proud father to our three children.  Together, Melissa and I have chosen to make Vancouver our home as we try to raise our children in this crazy mixed-up world that is so different from the world in which we were raised.

Professionally, I’ve devoted my legal practice to getting fair compensation for clients injured by the carelessness of others.  I do my best to keep up-to-date on important legislation that could affect the rights of my past, present, and future clients–and my own friends and family.  In this professional role I have a unique bird’s-eye perspective of the common “rule violations” that cause injury and harm in our communities.  For the past few years I have often thought about writing a blog–I love to write; but, what interesting material could I bring to an internet already filled with blogs read by nobody but their author?  Then I knew.

Who knows how this will evolve?  I sure don’t.  But, in the infancy of Make Safe, I plan to write about issues and problems to make our  streets, our schools, our public spaces, and even our homes safer for our children.  I’ll write generally (no names or specifics) about issues presented by my own clients.  I’ll write about important legislation that will endanger us; or make our world safer.  I’ll write about important and far-reaching Washington  Supreme Court and Court of Appeals cases that change the “rules” of the game we all play.  Using these issue generators, I’ll try to move us all toward action and toward a safer community.  I’ll do my part to “Make Safe” Vancouver and urge you to do so as well.

I hope for this blog to be a place to convey information and perspective.  I hope it will be a sounding board from which I can be heard not only in our community, but in yours, and theirs.  I hope for it to be a place for you to look, search, and learn about what you can do to make our community a safer place to raise our children.

As I begin to “Make Safe” our community I invite you to share your thoughts and opinions.  Ask questions.  Present issues.  Reply.  I’m only one guy.  My network is only so big.  There are countless numbers of you.  Your networks literally cover the globe.  I encourage you to share Make Safe with your own networks–let’s see how far we can reach.  I look forward to taking this journey with you.


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